My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. It hasn’t always been an easy road to travel for either of us. After a year of marriage we were separated for 10 months. We had combined our families and being a step parent is no joke. My husband and I had a hard time adjusting and agreeing on how to parent. One day I was watching the 700 Club and it talked about marriage. They talked about how love is a choice and not a feeling. I chose to return to my husband and obeyed God. It took counseling and layers of anger to fade away. We are completely in love with each other again. It took time, but we gave it the time that we needed to heal. God has to be your focus. My prayer at night, is not for God to change specific things that my husband does that bothers me, but for my husband to desire what God wants. When your husband desires what God wants and you desire what God wants for you, then you will find common ground. I can’t stress enough that doing marriage with God is hard, but doing marriage without God is harder. God loves you and desires for you to believe in Him and accept Him to be your Lord and Savior. He gave His one and only Son for us and we never deserved it! What an awesome God we have!
My husband and I were foster parents for 6 years. We adopted a 3 year old. She is 8 now and keeps me young or maybe old! Lol. She is a blessing to us. There are also challenges that come along with it. Foster children that are older have already been molded within the first 3 years of their life. She loves us but also feels the void of her birth parents not being there. I know when she gets older she will realize that God is the only one who can feel that void! He is the only one!! My love is not enough for her but God’s love is. We are very close, but I’m also the one she feels comfortable enough with to let her anger go. Parents just don’t understand the ramifications they have on their children. Especially if drugs and abuse are involved. If you are thinking about fostering or adopting, I encourage you to do it. Both you and your child with be a blessing to each other.
If you are interested in fostering call 877-210-KIDS.